Ahh, the age old question, can men and women "just " be friends? First I have to ask, why is this a question? Why do so many want to neglect what is natural and how we are wired, to work so hard to create the false premise that it is possible for men and women to be just friends.
In this video shot on a college campus, students go out and interview both male and female students asking them this question, can men and women be "just" friend? What you see clearly is that the female students happy declared "YES" while the men snickered and answered in the negative. When the women are asked specifically if that male friend of theirs is interested in them, they sheepishly say yes to that as well.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=T_lh5fR4DMA
What happened to a time when men and women acknowledged who we are, and acted accordingly. We were careful not to put ourselves in a predicament for questionable things to happen, such as a male and female student who are just "friends" studying late into the night in one or the others dorm room, and the moment provides itself for a one night stand, and depending on each of their relationship status, as well their relationship, has been changed forever.
In Judaism there are laws of "yichud"
Yichud is loosely translated as seclusion. Meaning there are very specific laws about a man and woman not married to each other and what situations of privacy or seclusion are OK are which are not. This is not to say that all men are animals, it is simply acknowledging that everyone has this weakness, it is how G-d made us.
Why are we such a generation of denial?
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